Love....A Feel Undefined

Love and Love is all around today and I would like to start with a short story.

Once there was a Princess, so beautiful, full of life and love like any other princess of fairy tales. She used to play with flowers, butterflies and birds. In beautiful sunshine she used to feed birds with her own hands as mesmerized with the beauty of their own, birds were her first love. Birds from all around the world, gorgeous and a delight to watch, few with wonderful wings, few with smoothest flights, few who touch the heights, few with beautiful singing and few blessed with perhaps every color our nature have, used to fly to her garden to get fed from her once.

One season of spring, a bird came with his flock. He was a bird to watch, a bird to love. Blessed with best of features of all other species he had an absolute glory and effortless style in singing, flights and colors he was possessed with. Princess fell in love with him straightaway like anyone else would have. She started playing with that bird only. She started waiting for him to come anxiously every season and when he use to come her happiness could be sensed in the winds. She just loved seeing him flying, singing, displaying so many colors and playing with her. She Fell in Love with Him.

Few seasons passed and now she wanted him to be with her always. So she got him caught and built a beautiful cage made of gold filled with diamonds. She was extremely happy now as she could see her love everytime she wish, play with him, feed him with her own hands and watch him. But sadness started to fill in that bird's heart as now he couldn't fly at his will, couldn't sing in happiness, couldn’t spread his wings in free flowing wind, and couldn’t nourish his colors in the sunlight. Slowly all his glories faded away. Princess too started ignoring him now as she don't feel the way she use to feel with him before. That bird fell ill soon and died one day.

Love...a feel beyond definitions. Love taking different forms the way we need them, the way we want them, the way we are convenient with. So is there any real form of love? Is there any pure love? Is there any true love/ If yes, then what defines it?

We love someone and want him or her to stay with us always. Why that obligation and why those conditions.

We love someone and want him or her to love us the way we do. Why that exchange if that is love and not business.

We love someone and want him or her to be like we want them to be. Why that desire to make our loved one that bird of the story.

Why Love is not to just Love. Why Love is not like surrendering ourselves for the happiness of others and it has become a feel to feed our happiness only. Why our happiness is not about seeing our loved ones happy.

So simple, Our love is not Detached and Selfless.

Some way or another, our love feed our own sense gratification first. Can We Let Our Love Go If He or She start feeling Happier with someone else or their happiness lies somewhere else. Or can we make it easier for him or her to go for their happiness if we know we can't even imagine our life without them being around. Can You Make it Easier for them to Go, If you Know Their Happiness lies somewhere else even though Your lies in them.

Detach yourself. Make that feel selfless. Your happiness will be much more now. Your happiness will be Pure now.

Yes, it hurts sometime, but that False Pain must not Stop me to Love True.

Stay Happy Stay Blessed. 

Simply Arsh

Why I Love A Woman....

When I say, I love my Mom, I love a Woman. When I say, I love my Wife, I love a Woman. When I Say, I love my sister, I love a Woman. When I say, I love my daughter, I love a Woman.

How can I hold anything other than just Love for  woman, in my heart, if I know it’s her feminine X that make me a complete XY male genetically.

If I know, it’s her unconditional love and care which made me feel secure and confident since my childhood and taught me to love unconditionally. If I know, it’s her being mischievous made me responsible when I grew up fighting with her and taught me to be naughty and playful at times. If I know, it’s her companionship, which made me mentally strong enough to succeed the journey of life and taught me to be a true companion. If I know, it’s angelic look of her eyes and the way she used to hold my index finger with her tiny soft hand, which made me feel I am a superhero and taught me to have faith blindly.

How can I hold anything other than just Love for a woman, in my heart, If I know I hold a bit of her in every bit of me.

Her day starts with taking care of her father, wishing good day to her brother, getting her kid ready for school, preparing breakfast and assembling her husband’s stuff. Her day grows in office taking notes of head office guidelines, dealing with stubborn boss and envy colleagues, handling work pressure amidst the office politics and still leaving the office with a smile on her face. Her day ends with ensuring everything is perfectly fine at its place.

My day today started with wishing all the beautiful women in my life a very happy Women’s day. My day grew up then reading about so many rape news on a single page in a single city, self help women group teaching in villages, most successful women in every field of society, women protesting for their rights as well as for others, discussing same with my colleagues and showing concern, sharing few laughs with my males and females colleagues with whom I share a good bond and ignoring others and leaving the office with weekend plans in mind. My day ended listening my mother’s as usual complaint about not eating properly, daughter’s complaint about not coming home earlier and wife’s complaint of her being getting so tired every day, but I wonder how she still manage to give a warm hug and a sweet smile even then.

Oh dear woman, thank you so much for being with me and believe me, Everyday I try my level best to make you smile. Dear mom, Everyday I try to take you to temple though I fail to give you enough time. Dear friend, Everyday I try to keep you away from office pressure, share your work and making sure you leave home early to take care of your family or stay with you and walk along if you are left alone working late in the office. But I know I too behave indifferent sometimes. Dear Sister, Everyday I try to make you believe in yourself and be an Independent and successful girl though I feel jealous for mom and dad being more affectionate to you. Dear daughter, Everyday I try to take care of you my little angel, though I make you feel that I am being protective and fail to realize you have grown up now. Dear wife, Everyday I try to help you in everything you do, though I fail to take some burden off from your shoulders.

Oh beautiful woman of my life, On this day, I promise I will try again and again and again to make your life easier and this world a better place for you to live. After all it’s not only today, everyday is your day, everyday is a women’s day.

Simply Arsh

When to Decide to End a Relationship.

When to Decide to End a Relationship.

In reply to a thread When to decide to end marriage? (http://www.speakingtree.in/public/spiritual-forums/wellness /when-to-decide-to-end-marriage)...by The seeker of the truth (http://www.speakingtree.in/public/sarita.chaubey)

Dear

Its not only about marriage, in every relationship, there are two things to consider. First the strength of the relationship and second the problems you encounter while being into that relationship.
First-The strength...We all as a human being, have needs. These needs can be categorised into Physical needs, mental needs, emotional needs, social needs, needs of subconscious mind and needs of unconscious mind. More a person fulfill our needs, stronger the bond we share with that person. That bond itself describes the love we have for that person. We don't even know that our so many needs are being fulfilled by that person. Once that relationship of needs fulfillment establishes, we consider ourselves in a relationship with that person with whatever name. Slowly courtesy, concern and care comes along with that bond. So more the needs are fulfilled, stronger we are attached with that person. (There is a lot more to say and discuss about it but lets keep it short and in context to your thread).

Second-Problems. ..When we start facing problems in our relationships, it depends what we consider the bigger one, Problems or the Bond we share. When the problems plays a bigger role than the Bond of love (needs fulfillment, courtesy concern and care) , relationship start deteriorating day by day. And comes to an end one day when we are left with without any fulfillment f needs, At that time we still want to be that person because of Courtesy, concern and care but that too elopes if other one don't feel the same.

So a relationship ends when there are Problems much bigger than the bond once we shared, end of further fulfillment f needs, end of a feel of courtesy, concern and care. in response to your thread, when to decide to end a marriage, one more thing need to be addressed and that is Responsibility. A number of things need to be thought of under that matter. Who else is getting affected...
Keep the bond stronger and bigger than the problems, one will never think of ending a relationship...

Stay Happy....Stay Blessed.

Simply Arsh